Learning to Live Alone
Living alone after years of living with a partner can be an extremely difficult transition. No matter what the cause, whether it’s that he moved away for work, passed away, or broke up with you, they’re all going to cause their own kinds of pain. And they all have the commonality that you are going to have to become self-sufficient.

Why Do They Want To Get Married?
It seems like all the gays want to get married right now, especially in the United States, where gay marriage is still not legal. As an older gay man, you might not see why. You’ve lived your life without gay marriage. What difference does it make? If you are committed to your partner, why do you need a stamp of approval? Why are we rocking the boat?

When Are You A Slut?
Would you consider yourself a slut? Where do we draw the line between dating and being promiscuous? And more importantly, is it necessarily a bad thing to be a slut? We’re going to look at this most interesting four letter word; what it means, who calls you that, and what situations really deserve the term.

Top Seven Reasons Why Admirers Aren't Always the Ones In Control
One of the worst preconceptions that we get in the older community is that an older man is devoted to pleasing his younger partner, and that the younger partner calls the shots in the relationship. Let’s look at factors that many would not think of when they come to their rushed judgments about intergenerational relationships, and how they work.

Drunk on a Date: Pros and Cons
We’ve all had a few drinks going out with guys. It’s part of the whole date experience. Yeah, you could be meeting him at a gay bar, having a couple of beers, and then going back to his place. But you could be putting it into part of a romantic set up as well, incorporating a bottle of wine into the dinner and walk along the beach. So how should you consider drinking on your date? Should you have one or two sips? A few glasses to work up the courage?

Do You Scare Off Dates?
We want to make a good impression when we are on dates. Sometimes, though, it can be downright difficult to figure out what makes a good impression when you are out with a guy. It’s also hard to know what could be a factor in him not calling you back again. There are many things that we do unconsciously on dates that can give off a distinctly wrong impression about yourself. So what are some of the biggest problems when it comes to scaring off a date? Here are the top eleven!

How To Break Up For Good
Are you one of those guys who tries to break up and then goes back for round two? Round three? Or worse? No one wants to be alone, yeah, but you most likely had a very good reason for leaving this man, and you don’t want to be the type of guy who takes a lousy boyfriend back no matter how many times he dumps you. So how do you do it? How do you breakup for good?

Is It Funny or Self-Deprecating?
Self-esteem is a big issue among senior gay men. Some of us are overweight, some of us have mobility issues, and none of us look like the usual wet behind the ears porn model. Do you deal with it with gentle good humor, or is your self-deprecating nature a crutch? Here are signs that you’ve crossed the line between funny and self-deprecating.

Ten Things You Shouldn't Let Him Get Away With
Live and let live, right? We all have to let our partners get away with little things every now and again to keep the relationship stable. But how much is too much? Where do we have to draw the line from making concessions to keep the relationship stable, and letting him do whatever he wants regardless of the cost?

The Top Ten Taboos and How to Deal With them
Some taboos you can carry with you for your entire life. Some can seriously impact the quality of your relationship, while others are more trivial. Let’s have a look at the ten biggest taboos to affect the lives of older men and their admirers, why we have them, and whether or not we can deal with them.

Never Too Old To Party
You’re never too old to party. You have the right to let loose as much as anyone else. You have the right to enjoy yourself. You deserve to be able to meet new people, dance, have a few drinks, laugh with friends. Age has nothing to do with it. As a gay senior, there are plenty of great nights out you can do, parties to attend, and, if you’re up for it, men to meet!

Is It Sexy or Ridiculous?
You want to be sexy. But it’s not always easy to picture yourself being sexy. Imagining that someone finds you hot can be really difficult for some men. Picturing yourself getting into complicated sexual gear and prancing around… to many guys, that just seems alien and ridiculous.

Why Did He Leave Me?
Having someone break up with you is tough, damn tough. Not only do you have to deal with the sometimes life-changing idea that you don’t have a guy with you, but you also have to deal with the depression. The feelings of doubt and a strong loss of self-esteem. So why did he leave you? What went wrong?

The Lost Art of Kissing
Do you think that anyone kisses anymore? Or do they dive right into the sex? Sure, sex is great, and we love getting intimate, but when was the last time you just lay there or sat there and kissed? Older Online offers you some tips on how to be a great kisser!

A Survival Guide to Senior Hairstyles
If you’ve had the same haircut since the sixties, you might have asked yourself, "why would I ever change it?" Sure, we’re individuals, but our routine haircut is comforting, a small ritual in our day to day life. Still, haven’t you ever got the nagging urge to change things up? To give something new a try?

Help! My Partner is a Weirdo!
Okay. Don’t panic. Your partner has just confessed to you his deepest, kinkiest fantasy. And it’s weird. To you, it seems like something you’d hear about on a talk show or in the confines of a dirty magazine. And he just told you it’s something he’s always wanted to do. You want to run away. You want to check the guy into a mental ward. And the last thing you want to do is to go along with what he’s saying. What do you do?

Why It's Great to Be a Gay Senior
Like you need a reason. But it is great to be a gay senior. Especially now. Things have changed so much for gay men in local terms, national terms, and worldwide. Don’t think that you have anything to feel bad about because mainstream gay culture is obsessed with youthful twinks. Who needs to be represented by Out Magazine and Will & Grace, anyway? Don’t let those men push you around. It’s a perfect time for you. And we’ve got a whole lot of reasons why! Let’s take a moment to celebrate why it’s great to be a gay senior.

Self-Image and Sexuality in Older Men
You hear about guys finding themselves hot all the time. You might think that it’s weird. Or you chalk it up to them being younger, happier, or better looking than you. For a lot of us older men, it’s hard to really think of ourselves as sexual or attractive. But, if you don’t find yourself attractive, you are missing out.

Naked and Fierce: Photographing Your Hot Older Bod
It’s not egotism. It’s not narcissism. It’s just you, wanting to show off yourself. And you want everyone to see the best of you. Whatever the reason, there’s plenty of ways that you can get naked photos of yourself. But how do you do it? What should you do with the pictures? We’ve got answers to many of your questions about getting great pictures of you naked.

Live-In Parents and Your Relationship
When you become a senior, and are still lucky enough to have one or both of your parents living with you, keeping a real dating life might seem like an impossible dream. Is there a way that you can continue your romantic life when you can’t leave them alone for an entire night?

Top Ten Senior Men in Nerd Culture
While there’s plenty of older admirers who are into blue collar things, the outdoors, and building things out of wood, there’s definitely a healthy amount of us out there who not only like older men, but are also very into the pillars of nerd culture – comics, sci fi, and fantasy. And you can’t help but have your sexuality pervade part of your favorite hobbies. Sure, you might not be jerking off while watching Lord of the Rings, but that doesn’t mean that Gandalf doesn’t make you smile. And sometimes, your favorite childhood characters have a way of shaping who you like as an adult, subconsciously or consciously!

Dramatic Endings
Got someone who doesn’t like you in the local senior / admirer community? As much as we all get together to meet, greet, and enjoy life, sometimes clubs and communities can become battlefields for personality conflicts, jealousy, and pettiness. And while it might seem like some people might cultivate it, really, no one wants drama in the long run. We do want to get along, and have things go our way. So what do you do if you are stuck in a situation where someone doesn’t like you? What if they’re instigating fights with you, or spreading stupid gossip? Where do you go? What do you do?

10 Myths About Older Admirers
As an older man, you might be a little mistrusting about older admirers. Especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with the community, and haven’t met the healthy and happy intergenerational couples out there, you might have some preconceptions about older admirers and their motivations. Curious about these myths? Read on and find out why they're not true!

Coming Out in Your Golden Years
So you’re not out of the closet. For many of us, we were expected to follow the standard lifestyle of finding a wife and having kids, not realizing or able to pursue any other options. But, now, you’re in your senior years, the children are grown up, you’re no longer married, and you’ve figured it out. You’re gay. But does that mean that you should be telling everyone in your life about it?

Why Would I Go to Pride? An Older Man's Look at Pride Parades
It was our generation, or the one right after us, that came up with the idea for gay pride parades. Depending on your lifestyle at the time, you might have been a part of it. You probably watched it on television. But what if you never were in on it, if you missed the Stonewall riots, the Harvey Milk protests, and the entire gay liberation movement. What if you don’t understand the whole gay pride parade. What is it that we’re supposed to be doing? Why do we have to flaunt our sexuality in front of everyone else? You know that there’s no straight pride parade. Here’s a look at why gay pride parades can be something great for you as an older man.

Don't Say the M-Word: Giving Yourself a Change
Okay. The concept’s been killed to death on reality television shows and Oprah. Just try to avoid thinking of it in that awful world – makeover – and we promise to never say it again. But giving yourself, your look, and your life a little kick in the pants never hurt anyone. Whether you’re looking for Mister Right, or in the midst of a very long term relationship, changing your image for the better is an uplifting and rewarding experience.

Older Than You Look: Looking Vibrant Through Maturity
Everyone knows those guys in their sixties who could easily pass for their forties. A good friend of mine, a personal trainer and phys. ed teacher, is getting close to seventy, but still looks like he could easily beat the crap out of many a younger man. If you’re in your sixties, or seventies, you might ask yourself: how can I look that way? If you’re in your fifties, you might be asking: how can I end up like that?

Hot Clothes for an Older Man's Bedroom
It can be hard to deal with the effects of age on your body. Even if you had a great self-image when you were younger, you might be embarrassed about how your body has changed over the years. You might not consider dressing up for your partner. That’s a huge mistake!

Renovating Your Wardrobe
Fashions change, isn't that what they say? What was once old is now new again? History repeating? That might be, but whatever your age is, there’s no excuse for you to have an out of date or simply unflattering wardrobe. As an older man, you might feel that you have lost touch with some of the newest fashion trends. And you know that you would look ridiculous dressing like a twenty year old. But there’s got to be a middle ground, right?

A Guide to Gay Graphics
Gay graphics have become a booming phenomenon in the past decade. Before the nineties, it was rare to ever see a pride sticker on a car, window, or backpack. But now, a good proportion of gay men and lesbians decorate their cars, homes, or themselves with gay icons, either as a show of solidarity, or even plain ol’ cruising.

Seven Great Looks for Silver Daddies
Putting on a look isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about tapping into how you are inside, and putting it out there! Here are seven great looks that will appeal to older admirers, other senior men, and all other elements of the gay spectrum!

Gay Culture Shock: The Divas
This time on Gay Culture Shock, we help expose you to the fabulous world of the gay divas. These women, for the past century, have shaped gay culture, and have become icons for us. We look up to them. We respect them. Some of us even dress like them. This guide is for the younger admirer, or for an older gay man that simply has not had any exposure to the gay lifestyle!

Gay Culture Shock: The Movies
If you are dating an older gay man who has been involved with the gay life for several decades, you have felt the searing slap of gay culture shock. The references that he uses, the quotations he loves, the music he listens to, and his frame of mind are completely alien to you. If you are a young gay man, or if you are older and just haven't had much exposure to gay culture, this handy primer is just the thing to get you on the road!

Are You a Secret Leather Man?
From the outside, the leather community seems mysterious and impenetrable. There’s plenty of gay men who go to the bar in full leathers, but maybe you are scared to talk to them. Leather has a certain appeal in the older gay community, as masculinity, experience, and strength can all be tied together through leather’s universe of kink, sensuality, control, and appearance.

The Art of Being Older and Single
It seems to go against the grain of the community, where it seems like the "admirer" crowd are more promiscuous, while the "older" crowd is looking to settle down and be domestic. What about those men who defy the stereotype, what about older men who have absolutely no plans on settling down? There are plenty of older men with healthy, active sex lives, friends, and without a desire to stick with one man. How do they do it? How is it possible to be a silver fox and happily single?

Why It's Great to Be an Admirer
If you are into older men, or are an older man who is used to having his partner rudely asked about their taste in men, you are pretty familiar with the generic reasons that you have to throw out to get them off your cases. “I always have been!” is one way to reply, or “Why are you into emaciated children?” is another retort. We don’t have to explain it, but in any case, here are some damn good reasons why we always are so happy with our men!

How Can I Support Our Community?
Some people claim that being gay is just about sexual preference. They ignore gay politics and culture saying that they don’t have to act gay to be gay. The trouble is that anyone who is actively homosexual is an activist by default. And to be within a subcommunity such as the older men and admirers means that you have another layer of misunderstanding and bias to overcome. So what can you do to support our community?

Dealing With a Pornographic Drought
One of the problems with being an admirer of silver daddy porn, or any specific gay porn sub-genre, is that there can never really be enough out there to keep your attention. So, in between updates, new movies, and new downloads, what should you do to get your porn fix? Here’s some ideas on great porn alternatives to take you through the hard times!

Aged and Tender
Some actors are known for their looks during their youth, and then for their skill in later years. Some young studs turn into duds in their later years. Some turn into hot silver foxes. Now, we here at olderonline.com might be coming from a biased perspective, but we’d much rather see these men in their prime, later years. Who aged well? Who was better younger? Let’s rate the stars, and compare!

Dressing For Your Date
Out on a first date? Maybe you never even thought about it, but what you wear can tell as much about you as what you say. Here’s a quick guide of five do’s and five don’ts for senior fashion.

Loving Yourself
When you first approached the internet, perhaps you were a little timid about putting your picture online. "Who," you thought, "would want to see an older gay man’s picture?" Maybe you even considered putting up a younger-looking one of yourself. But you bit the bullet and put up a recent, charming picture… and what did you find? Guys not only didn’t mind the fact that you are a senior, but they like it!

A Beginner's Guide to Mature Dating
Gay magazines and newspapers used to be the principal source of personal ads, but the majority has now moved over to websites. Why? Because gay websites are a cheaper, faster, and more interactive way to meet people. The Internet is also liberating, putting a wall between you and your contacts, allowing you to be more free and expressive about yourself. Because of the vast amount of storage space, pictures can be placed on ads and accessed, and you can be emailed instantly if someone reads and likes your profile.

Treat Yourself To An Event
Several international and national events are offered every year through associated gay clubs.  These can be an exciting opportunity to broaden your horizons, and expand your group of friends, as well as meet interesting new men.  For whatever you are looking for, these events have something to offer.  There’s also a variety of events to choose from, to suit your tastes and price range.

The Inevitable Cost of Aging
We men might appreciate the fact that many of us have exceeded our warranty if we remind ourselves that it has not been too many generations ago that the life expectancy of a man was only about 35 years...